Community and alienation

Raye Chell Mahela

Throughout my life, growing up and being part of online communities, I was always in one way or another put down and felt alienated, no matter the type of group. And so many people online hold the ability to say anything to anyone to be “sacred”. But that’s not how I run my communities.

I built an educational game development-oriented ecosystem for the past decade or so, and the #1 rule was to treat others with respect. In a community based around learning, one of the biggest enemies is feeling alienated.

As I began learning conlangs, I experienced the same alienation, over and over again. Part of the reason I started “La Aliuloj”, which is now Áya Dan, is because of this alienation. I want to create an environment, a blog, an educational and fun resource that does not alienate people. Because there are plenty of places to go to if you want to feel like shit.

For me, I’d much rather spend my energy supporting people, than trying to debate/argue with others who aren’t going to have their minds changed. When I create videos about asexuality, it is in the hopes of letting others know “See? You’re not alone”, moreso than trying to argue with the vitriol that one sees when they try to post about it.

And that extends to everybody. I don’t want to see anybody being shat on. And this includes religion. There are many people in this world, and many people are good, and many people are also religious.

I’m a firm believer that, even if religion didn’t exist, individuals would still find ways to be assholes to each other.

So let’s not be assholes to each other. Let’s treat each other with a mutual respect, and support each other, and cheer each other on, and create a supportive community where we can all come together and enjoy language.