Behind Every Great One – a game about a stay-at-home wife

I played this game yesterday and it really hit home for me. My mom was a stay-at-home mom who took care of my sister and me, cooked and cleaned, and mostly just read books. Now that she’s retired, she’s not really sure what to do with herself.

For me, I have two jobs and I still feel the pressure to clean up the house. That feeling of being responsible for maintaining the entire home, while not having time to really do something that helps me grow on my own (I try to make time, but I’m drowning).

And then at the end of every day, the relationship with the husband reminds me of past relationships that I have been in. At the end of the day taking care of the house, I see the nightly pinging for sex like just another chore on the pile that the husband expects from her. I’ve definitely been in relationships like that before, where my boyfriend would want sex regularly, but never put any effort into it.

And all the while, the criticism from others – you’re getting fat, you’re not taking care of the house well enough, you’d just be happier if you took the time to keep the house in order. That sounds like my stepdad and my mom. Sure, having a clean home would relieve stress, but houses get messy again, and I can’t tackle it alone… not when working more than full time.

This post isn’t specifically about Láadan, but for anyone who was raised with the outside world treating you as a girl and as a woman, that feeling of historically you would have been property – a defacto servant – and how that expectation still bleeds into how we treat women today, perhaps you can also relate.

Lingua Franca Nova article

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I am not promoting LFN anymore owing to issues with its small community being infiltrated by reactionaries, as can be seen at its Wikipedia, where a user who has written an article about “Cultural Marxism” in bad faith is currently a sysop. Their original article on the subject was pushing an antisemitic conspiracy theory about the Frankfurt School, and their current article treats the antisemitic conspiracy theory as having equal validity as verifiable reality. What’s more, they have abused their administrative powers to protect the article, which, at such a tiny Wiki as LFN’s Wikipedia, makes it nearly impossible for all but a few users to edit, and was not done in response to any vandalism.

Until these issues with its very small community get sorted out, I cannot, in good faith, continue to argue that it is an “LGBT-inclusive romlang.” Quite the opposite is true; there are people with power and social capital in its community who want to see LGBT people dead. I would also be cautious about romlang communities in general, as there seem to be no small number of reactionaries who learn these languages due to their “Westernness,” due to the fact that they were not created by a Jew like Zamenhof, and/or due to them not pushing a “globalist” ideology. I have seen such people in the Interlingua community as well, though they are not dominant.